7 Golden Rules For Winning Back Your Wife After A Separation

Question: My wife and I recently separated and now I really miss her and want to get her back. Is there anything I can to repair our relationship and get back together? Answer: I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation and it must be very difficult to be away from someone that you love so dearly. I can't give you specifics about what will work for you and your situation because everyone is different however I can tell you about some of the most common things that have worked and not worked for many men who have needed to win their wife's heart back. Below I've outlined 3 things you should not do and 4 things that you absolutely must do when it comes to winning back your wife if you've separated. Don't: 1. Call or harass your wife. This is one of the biggest mistakes that men make when trying to get back with their wives. For starters, it makes you look creepy. No woman wants to be stalked and she doesn't need to justify her every move to you while you're apart. It's ok to call her every once in a while to check up on her and the kids, but if it gets to a point where you're obsessing over her every move, then I think you've gone too far. Instead, use your time apart from each other to do something constructive and meaningful with your life. Work on improving yourself and making yourself a more appealing person to your wife so that when you do call to check up on her she's actually excited and wants to talk to you. 2. Don't date lots of women. If you're trying to make your wife jealous by dating other women then you need to do it right or else you'll find yourself alone at the end of the day. The reasons why you date other women while your separated from your wife is not to show her what she's missing. The reason it's ok to date other women while your separated from your wife is to improve your self esteem and self confidence so that when you meet up with your wife your a much happier person and not a basket case. So how many women should you date? I can't answer that question for you as there is no perfect number. What I suggest you do is put yourself in her shoes and think about how many men you'd like to see your wife date while you're apart and use that as a benchmark. 3. Use the kids. Don't under any circumstance use your kids as leverage against your wife. Leave your kids out of it altogether. I know it can be an easy trap to fall into, but using your kids as ammunition against your wife will not win her heart back or win you any points in the long run. Instead it will drive a wedge into your already strained relationship. So try to keep them out of it as best you can and keep things between you and your wife. DO: 1. Give her plenty of time and space. Don't worry that she's going to rush right out and meet someone else. Just like you, she's probably gone out on a few dates to keep her spirits up, but I doubt she's found someone that she's deeply connected to because it's not easy to move on and get over someone you love, even when you're both hurting. 2. Spend plenty of time doing things that you like to do. This is a good time to make some changes to who you are and work on making yourself a better man. You might not be aware of this, but women find men who have goals and direction in their lives to be very attractive and irresistible. And it really doesn't matter what it is, so take a class or upgrade your education but do something that shows your wife that you're investing in yourself. Doing so will give you two benefits: first it'll keep you busy and help you through this tough time, and secondly it'll remind your wife of the fun loving, full of life guy she fell in love with in the first place. 3. Spend quality time with your kids. Use your time apart from your wife as a chance to reconnect with your kids. Have fun with them and enjoy the time you can spend together, it will be good for all of you. Remember that your wife chose you over all the other guys and when she did, she chose you to not only be a great husband, but also a great father too! 4. Don't repeat the past. Make a mental note that when you and your wife get back together that you won't repeat the same mistakes that brought you to this point in the first place. Use the time apart to analyze your marriage and the role that you played… and then resolve to make the changes necessary to save your relationship. These 7 tips are a great starting point for how to win your wife trust back if you've separated. The bottom line is that if you really want to win her back, you have to show her that you are a man who is worth her time.