The Truth About Emotional Intelligence

There is so much emphasis on emotional intelligence nowadays that it appears that people are suppressing their feelings and problems in an effort to "fit in," to help keep their jobs, and applying "positive self-talk" to muscle through the rough spots inside their lives.

Recently, I'd a friend over who has experienced enormous work pressure throughout a time when his wife's father was dying of cancer. Of course, quitting his job did not seem like a choice in this difficult time, particularly because his wife returned to her parental home for several weeks to say good-bye to her dying father. He was left by that at home to take care of their kids, pay the costs, and the like. Who can forge definitely in to a new job-search with all that going on?

After his father-in-law died his wife returned home and his job was lost by him - as did lots of his colleagues - and his wife decided she no further desired to remain married. What else can go wrong? OH! Of course! His father could be clinically determined to have cancer: He was.

Now he is living an entire hell, with all this uncertainty, and two sweet children trying to him for stability. Is it any wonder that folks are cracking underneath the stress?

He is alone and he tries to be "emotionally together" but that only triggers more harm than good. We (community), in our dependence on order and stability, do not want people with all these issues within our lives. We do not want them employed in our office. They are broken!

Well, the reality is, our (society) objectives around emotional intelligence, and together, full-functioning people, is what's breaking them.

I spent three hours with him the other night, admitting his horrific situations, his psychological turmoil, and gave him permission to embrace everything. He is not broken, he's experiencing emotional pain and it must be shared, indicated, and labored through (processed.) It is not enough that he embrace it either. Community is needed to create, love, heal, and surround.

Therefore, when we see hurting people, do not look at them as broken people who've not got their work together. Seem at them as someone who needs a bit of kindness, generosity, and warm service. Watch the ability those simple things may have in their life.

Caveat: This does not excuse people remaining disempowered subjects for the rest of the lives. Our role would be to grasp and still to empower, making the "wounded one" to take responsibility for their restoration. Embrace, love, and challenge.Leading Resources, Inc. 1812 J Street #2 Sacramento, CA 95811 (916) 325-1190

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